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A NOTE ABOUT COMPASSION

What is compassion, anyway?  Is it mere forgiveness?  Is it cushy, makes us feel good, the cause we donate to; the prayer in Sunday church that all sinners find their ways?  Is this compassion? 

Nope.

Compassion is not always easy.…

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ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER

Near the end of my mother’s life, which is to say in the last six months or so, I was feeling so exhausted I didn’t know how much longer I could continue digging down to find the energy to keep…

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A LITTLE MORE ABOUT AMBIGUOUS LOSS

Coping with the grief of losing your loved one to dementia is not easy, especially as they move deeper into the condition and all “hopes” of certain stability fade.  They begin to enter late-moderate stage or the beginning of end-stage…

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POST-TRAUMATIC CAREGIVING

Someone I am close to is dying of dementia.  Is dying.  Is exhibiting the same process as my mother exhibited when her dying—which is what dementia is on the whole—accelerated in end stage.  Falling, wheelchair, hospice, hospital bed, asking to…

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CREATE COMPANY...FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR LOVED ONE

One of my fondest memories is the night all the stars momentarily realigned and everything seemed alright with my mom.  She’d had a terrible choking event some months earlier, and two recent falls within ten days of each other, and…

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THERE'S A NAPKIN IN HER MOUTH

I arrive one early evening to find my mother sitting alone in her wheelchair at a table in the dining area of the Memory Care Unit.  She is chewing on something that looks like chicken.  She is happy to see…

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RAINBOW

Here is the final page of the memoir I'm working on, now in 2nd draft, logging my experience with my mother as she journeyed through vascular dementia, stepping out of this world in August 2023.   RAINBOW   There is a rainbow.…

SOLSTICE AND HERRING

Here's a little Solstice offering, if for no other reason than to give you a moment in which you do not have to think about dementia.  It's a piece of mine from 2016.  Featured, is Checkers who was an amazing…

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